Oct-31-2010

Milton’s gift

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Let’s start from the end to understand where the hypnosis began. My right hand is under a ripe pomegranate, holding it, and someone is cutting the twig that holds it. The tree stands in Milton Erickson’s garden and the knife belongs to his son-in-law Dave.
It is a precious gift that comes as a magic day draws to an end, a day in which Milton has welcomed me, confused me and then guided me, showing me the places and the stories of his passing. He has done this through the people who knew him and have been touched by his light.

One step back and we find ourselves in the waiting room of doctor Erickson’s small office, sitting on that couch where hundreds of people waited for their appointment with destiny, their encounter with the master and true contact with themselves.
The clock stops and goes more than thirty years back: Dave, Cecile and Kathryne Rossi are talking as Fulvia and I listen in religious silence. The hypnosis flows through all of us and Milton shows himself in the words of everyone telling these stories that just emerge without belonging to anybody.

Everything being said right now concerns only me and the transformation which is occurring. The electric heater is sizzling loudly even though the plug isn’t connected and right now it is the most natural thing in the world.

Cecile, who took care of Elizabeth, Erickson’s wife, until her death, tells us about an Italian couple that came to visit. They had taken some pictures of the rooms and then, to Elizabeth’s great surprise, they asked her let them have a picture of the three of them taken, right on this couch where we are sitting. Elizabeth was so pleased about that.

Cecile is talking about them, and Milton is talking to us. He is asking me something. I let a few minutes go by so that the moment may manifest itself and I ask her to let us have a picture of the three of us taken, right on this couch. She is both surprised and pleased.

She didn’t think she was important enough to deserve a picture. I let my unconscious speak and I tell her something I have no right to say: she is the most fitting person to perform the task of taking care of this magical and silent place where presences must be protected. Embarrassed, she smiles and tells me that it was actually Elizabeth who took care of her, often telling her: “I can’t always be playing with you.”

One step further back and Dave and I are sitting in Erickson’s office, he in the patient’s chair and me in Milton’s. Dave imitates the tone of Erickson’s voice as he tells him to stare at the corner of his desk. He looks at me intensely and I allow my gaze to rest on that corner. I see the shape of the objects around me changing and I perceive Milton’s quietness flowing through me. I am wholly in a present which comprises all that is, all that was and all that will be. I keep on looking at Dave, who is so much like Milton, that I have to smile, amused, as if Milton had planned one of his jokes just to confuse my ordinary awareness.

One more step back, and we are at the foot of Squaw Peak, the small mountain to the top of which Erickson used to send some of his patients to distract them from their problem and bring them back to the present, in every action and movement necessary to reach the summit. Milton never climbed that mountain and has done so only after his death, when his ashes caressed the thousands of rocks, each different from the other, losing himself and finding himself once again in the wind. Dave shows us the mountain from one side and then from the other side. He gives us the task to climb to the top tomorrow morning, but he won’t come up. He wants me only to remember that on Squaw Peak, each time you think you have reached the summit, there is always further to go before you get to the peak, whatever the point you reach is.

One last step back and I find myself on the mountain beside Squaw Peak. I am alone, high up. I am looking for the blue marks that indicate the path which should circle back down bringing me to the base of the mountain. I stop, understanding that there is no reason to climb higher. I look down and enclosed between the desert mountains lies a beautiful valley of surreal green.

I start descending and with every step I take, I hear the noise of the rocks crumbling. There are only rocks and cacti. Going down I meet three lizards in succession, each ine walking in a different direction: the first one is small and climbs towards the peak, the second one is black and crosses the path from right to left and the third one is big, intense green and goes down towards the valley. I keep going down and find the path again. In that instant, my mind goes back to Erickson’s office and it is Cecile speaking. She tells me about the dozens of snails that come into the garden and about her senseless fear. And then suddenly Elizabeth’s words are in her head: always remember that God never created an evil creature.

Just yesterday, I was in San Francisco and the seminar on ABC counseling was a huge success: it is an honor to have had Suzi Smith and Judith De Lozier among the participants. I feel a deep sense of gratitude for all that life is offering me.

The time has come to use my hands to open the pomegranate and to share the infinite abundance of the wonderful red seeds of life.

Oct-29-2010

The price of fame

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When you’re famous, you’re famous. You just can’ t help it. People recognize you on the street. They want your autograph and they want to have their pictures taken with you. That’s just the way it is, I guess.

Thanks to jetlag, this morning I’m down for breakfast at an unusually appropriate hour. With a long beard and a hoodie, I have no intention of socializing: usually before 11 in the morning I don’t have the gift of speech.

From the excited faces of those sitting at the restaurant tables I can tell that the conference is about to begin. It seems to me I recognize someone, but since facebook has been around, I don’t even know anymore who it is that I really know and who I would like to get to know, so to avoid complications I try not to meet anybody’s gaze before it’s time for my speech. What’s more, I ended up with my face printed nice and visible on the conference program and it happens to look pretty much like the one I’m wearing this morning.

I am roasting my two slices of toast, without taking my eyes off the rotating toaster, a sight that always engrosses me. I wait for the punctual fall of the slices, put them on my plate and go to the table, following the shorter and less beaten track. Everything goes smoothly, nobody recognizes me, just the way it was supposed to be. I eat my breakfast slowly, talking with Fulvia in a low voice. It looks as though today, too, I can bask in complete anonymity.

Then suddenly just what you are not expecting: one of the two ladies with an intellectual air sitting at the table in front of us, stares me right in the face, smiles at me and before I have time to react says to me: “Are you… done with the ketchup?”

Done? I haven’t even started yet, actually, but I’m happy to hand it to her.

I understand this is a sign that today is the right day to cut class and go to university. To Stanford, specifically: a magical and silent place where thought is protected by the huge park surrounding it, and where hundreds of squirrels keep a good watch over the bright minds of the future.

To finish off, I stopped at the legendary Mental Research Institute, where in the past great minds have come together to create the modern science of psychotherapy and communication.

That same evening, back at the hotel, I meet Judy (DeLozier), who welcomes me with that funny affection that makes her so special. Then I barely have the time to call Dave, Erickson’s son-in-law, who this weekend is going to guide us to Milton’s places, in search of his less known stories. Tomorrow morning my presentation and then we’re on our way to Phoenix!

Oct-26-2010

California dreaming

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While you are reading this, I am probably flying over the Atlantic on my way to San Francisco, where I am going to present the ABC model at the IASH (Institute for Advanced Studies of Health) World Health Conference. Squaw Peak

It is a great honor and I am proud to take my own model across the Atlantic, where many of the techniques that distinguish ABC were born.

I will also have a few days to visit Phoenix and the Milton Erickson Foundation, as well as Squaw Peak, the famous mountain where Milton often sent his patients to “reflect on their own life”.

From there we might move on towards adventures, maybe the magical town of Sedona to experience the famous Energy Vortexes, or maybe Mexico, we’ll see.

If you want to participate in this trip “virtually”, you can do so both here on the blog and on Facebook, which perhaps will be easier for me to update.

You just have to click on the “Like” button to keep in touch all the way and come with me, to discover new things. I will post photos and maybe some videos too.

I still have 50 minutes to take off: I think I am going to let myself be hypnotized a little bit more by the airport bookshop.

See you soon, in America! :-)

Oct-25-2010

ABC week

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Il Modello ABC

This is ABC week.

This is the day Ferruccio, one of our students from the Master in Counseling course, discussed his final thesis at the Faculty of Psychology in the University of Padua.

What’s amazing is that his thesis is an in-depth analysis of the ABC model, an approach designed to help people which I created several years ago and that has now reached thousands of people.

This is also the week I am going to take the ABC model across the ocean to speak about it at the World Health Conference in San Francisco.

Finally, I’m happy to mention that, and it happens to be this weekend, an ABC master course is taking place in Turin with our brand-new Trainer Sheyla Militello, one of only four trainers in Italy.

To celebrate this event, I think you’ll enjoy reading a comment a student of ours has just sent me:

“Hello Charlie,

On Saturday and Sunday I attended the Turin Master in Counseling with the Trainer Sheyla and the Observer Giovanni… they are both great, wonderful, professional people!!

With this email I want to compliment you on your method, the dedication and love you show in order to offer help and comfort to people facing difficult moments, so that they may find the best way out.

Thank you for your commitment to the diffusion of Counseling thanks to professional experts like the people I met this weekend, giving me the chance to feel emotions I have never felt before, letting me discover that sometimes it’s not true that we can’t cope… but only that we’d rather stay stuck in our discomfort, victims of something or somebody, but actually victims only of ourselves.

In this email I have taken the liberty of addressing you as a friend… it was instinctive … after these two days, I really feel like I know you personally!!!

Thanks again!!

Take care.”

Thank you and congratulations Sheyla.
I‘ll go pack my bags now, I’m off to the USA tomorrow!